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Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is the sudden, unexpected death of an infant who is less than one year old, and usually occurs during sleep. The exact cause of SIDS is unknown, but it is thought to be related to problems in the baby's ability to wake up and breathe properly.
Although SIDS can occur in any infant, certain factors may increase the risk, including:
Most cases of SIDS occur in infants between 2 and 4 months of age. SIDS usually occurs during sleep and the infant is often found unresponsive.
There is no known way to prevent SIDS, but there are several things that can be done to reduce the risk, including:
If you have concerns about SIDS, talk to your pediatrician or healthcare provider for more information and guidance.
A combination of physical and sleep environmental factors can make an infant more vulnerable to SIDS. These factors vary from child to child.
Physical factors associated with SIDS include:
The items in a baby's crib and his or her sleeping position can combine with a baby's physical problems to increase the risk of SIDS. Examples include:
There's no guaranteed way to prevent SIDS, but you can help your baby sleep more safely by following these tips:
There's no treatment for sudden infant death syndrome, or SIDS. But there are ways to help your baby sleep safely. For the first year, always place your baby on his or her back to sleep. Use a firm mattress and avoid fluffy pads and blankets. Remove all toys and stuffed animals from the crib, and try using a pacifier. Don't cover a baby's head, and make sure your baby doesn't get too hot. Your baby can sleep in your room, but not in your bed. Breast feeding for at least six months lowers the risk of SIDS. Vaccine shots to protect your baby from diseases may also help prevent SIDS.
After losing a baby to SIDS, getting emotional support is critical. You might feel guilt as well as grief, and you'll be dealing with the mandatory police investigation into cause of death. You might find it comforting to talk to other parents whose lives have been touched by SIDS.
Ask your doctor to recommend a support group in your area or visit an online SIDS chat room. Talking to a trusted friend, counselor or clergy member can also help.
If you can, let friends and family know how you're feeling. People want to help, but they might not know how to approach you.
Losing a child can put a terrible strain on a relationship, so be as open as possible with your spouse or partner. Counseling might help some couples understand and express their feelings.
Finally, give yourself time to grieve. Don't worry if you find yourself crying unexpectedly, if holidays and other celebratory times are especially difficult, or if you're tired and drained much of the time.
You're dealing with a devastating loss. Healing takes time.